Get help early. Don’t wait until you’re drowning. I once heard the analogy of utilizing a personal trainer to learn a gym routine. If you’ve never exercised, you wouldn’t walk into a gym thinking you’d be an expert, not need any training, and be able to adeptly figure it out as you go, right? But with marriage or even long term relationships, we don’t encourage getting help and guidance early on. Instead, couples wait an average of 6 years into unhappiness before seeking help.  I want you to search your feelings (like a Jedi) for a moment and think which would be an easier fix if you’re stuck on the…